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Important questions to ask your loved ones

Don’t put off the conversation any longer – here are five important questions to ask your loved ones.

End of life planning is vital to make sure your wishes are followed and your loved know what to do when the time comes. That’s why you’ve got to have these discussions while you still can and find out what plans your loved ones have got in place.

If you’re unsure of where to start, here are five important questions to ask your nearest and dearest:

  1. Do you have a will?

When the time comes, you’ll want to know if your loved one has a will and where you can find it. It might be stored with a solicitor or in a safe place in their home. Likewise, you should let them know where they can find your will.

If one of you doesn’t have a will, you should talk about why it’s a good idea to write a will. Find out five reasons why you shouldn’t put off writing a will.

  1. Have you made an advance decision?

People may decide to make an advance decision if they are ill, or if they have particular wishes about how they want to be cared for at the end of life. An advance decision, or living will, is a legal document that cannot be overruled by next of kin.

It’s important to know if your loved one has an advance decision, or to let them know if you have one, so that there are no surprises when the time comes.

  1. Would you want to be an organ donor?

Life-saving organ donation can only happen in very specific circumstances, so it’s vital that doctors know who is willing to donate their organs.

If your loved one has signed the organ donor register, you cannot legally overrule their wishes, but if they haven’t, it’s important that you know what they’d prefer.

  1. Do you have a funeral plan?

If one of you has a funeral plan, make sure that the other knows exactly where to find all the documentation you need. You should also make sure you know what is covered by their plan and who their nominated funeral director is.

If they don’t have a funeral plan, you should talk about how one of you would pay for a funeral if the worst was to happen. Do you have financial plans in place? If not, think about making a plan.

  1. What do you want your funeral to be like?

Finally, it can be really helpful to talk about what kind of funeral they want for themselves. If they’ve bought a funeral plan, they will have made some key decisions, but there may be other elements that you need to organise.

Do they want a traditional religious ceremony or celebration of life? Do they have any special requests for music or flowers? Having the conversation now means that when the time comes, you’ll both know that you’re making the right decisions.


Find out more about the benefits of buying a funeral plan with Avalon.


About the author

With a Masters from the University of Bristol, Jessica Hanson has worked in the funeral sector for several years, following the latest industry trends and writing about end of life planning. Jessica has previously written as a blogger for the Huffington Post, covering topics such as death positivity, understanding grief and how funerals are changing. You can find Jessica on LinkedIn and Twitter.